Back, many moons ago, I suggested that I was going to start a Little House Series. Well, I did start it all right. Unfortunately, it all happened in my mind and none of it happened to reach written form of any kind. That’s changing – starting now.
Real life has a way of just happening, you know? Weeks fly by like the it’s the second hand on the clock, and before I know it my little baby, who was just born last week, is suddenly ten months old, and my oldest daughter, who just turned 5, is nine and a half. I mean, whaaaaaat?! Somebody tell me how to slow down this train.
One of the things I love about blogging (and that has made me miss it) is the way it helps me to just slow and take time to remember the beautiful things about right now. Maybe they’re not all beautiful, maybe it’s full of challenges. When I first started blogging, years ago, my life felt full of challenges. But as I re-read my blog, I saw those years through new eyes. Eyes that purposely noticed the good things, the good gifts from the Father. Instead of just racing through my days, I noticed the simple beauty, the little things. And often the little things are the biggest things of all, aren’t they? The little things that remind us that we are loved, that we have a Father who cares about us. And looking back, taking time to reflect, can help us treasure those little things again, like sitting down to write a thank you note as a remembrance of the gift we’ve been given.
Four kids has definitely changed the busy factor for me. I feel like four kids are easier than two (I know, whaaaaaat. But at least it is for me, with the ages my kids were with only two (1 year and newborn), and now the ages they are with four (10 months, 4 & 7 & 9 years)), but it’s busier than two. More people in the household means more laundry (I know intensely practical, but seriously, hashtag laundrymountaineveryday), more people to pile into our one and only bathroom to get ready for the day, more people to tuck into bed and kiss at time (and feel like I’m playing whack-a-mole at bedtimes sometimes. I do love my kids – I promise – it’s just that a meme struck me funny and I can’t stop laughing.), just… MORE. And most days it’s such a good more, a good full. Just FULL.
So I guess this is just sort of a letter to myself. That when those little old ladies stop you at the grocery store and tell you, “Just treasure these days! They go by so fast!” and you think maybe they just don’t remember the meltdowns and the whack-a-mole bedtimes and the non-stop energy… Maybe they don’t remember, but they are so right – the time goes by so fast. I feel like I blink and another year goes by. And these days are days to be treasured. I love this stage with my kids. The meltdowns and bedtimes and energy? That’s just a call for me to press into Jesus, to rely on His strength instead of my own. The food spills and diaper fills just as we’re going out the door? It’s so that I remember I can’t do it on my own.
A choice to be a mother is really a choosing to need more of Jesus than I ever thought possible. And in my weakness He is strong. Amazing amazing reality. Why would He make it that way? That He works not just through our strength, but through our weaknesses even? So that He is glorified. So that He can show us how amazing He is. So that we’re not tempted to think we got this mothering thing down pat, that we know how to raise kids. Not at all. It’s so that we can know we can receive fresh mercy every single day, no matter how challenging it was the day before, no matter how many times we messed up, no matter how many times we’ve had ask forgiveness of our children. It’s so that we can experience Jesus, receive His sweet grace, and then give that to our children as well.
Late night ramblings from a mommy of four while the husband is gone for ten days, XO
// gorgeous photos credit of my sister Claudia //
// I can’t say enough good about the Solly Baby wrap – I’m not paid to endorse it but it’s what I’ve used with little Jack and he and I both love it! //
Happy Holiday Weekend!
I hope you had a wonderful holiday weekend, and hopefully were able to spend it with those you love the most! We spent the weekend with some of my family, and it was so great to see a sister that lives far away! She and I also share a birthday, and being able to spend our birthday day together for the first time in years was super special! We sure didn’t think that when we were kids, but now? It’s the best thing ever! ;)
It’s been two years since I first talked about my favorite supplements and how they have helped my health so much! I went from being exhausted, drained, so little energy, being overwhelmed by little things, to thriving as a mom and wife, to have energy to get up in the morning, having my hormones balance out, and feeling great throughout the day! As a mom, when you’re busy with four little kids and you feel awesome, it is something you want to tell people about, because you want other people to know what it’s like to feel that too!!
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The sale is fabulous, PLUS you get to enter the busy month of December with optimal health, and energy for all that the schedule demands! I don’t ever want to be without my favorite supplements, and especially not during extra-busy times. :) So I’m super excited about getting them for a discounted price!
That’s why I wanted to let you know about it too! If you’ve been thinking about Plexus and are waiting for a sign, well, this is your sign. :) If you have any questions about which products may be best for you, then please feel free to send me a message. I’d love to chat with you!
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Happy Monday, you all!
It’s one of my favorite days of the week, and today included a brunch with friends then office time while the boys napped and the girls were at Monday School. It’s my at home day this week, and I love that – feeling like I can get organized for the week ahead. Especially when it’s a busy holiday week, and the next few days are extra busy!
I’ve done a little bit of “fluffing the nest” for autumn, as I’m sure many people are also doing with Thanksgiving coming up! Next week that’s going to change into winter décor (yaaaaay!!) but before it does, here’s a little peek at my house this week.
It’s that time of year when the weather suddenly turns chilly, and all I want to do is curl up with a cozy blanket and sip a hot drink! :) We’ve had an unusually mild autumn, and it’s been wonderful to still be in short sleeves and have the kids play outside, but now that winter is coming I’m so excited about that too. Namely, about snow. My snow-loving heart can’t wait!
It really can be the simplest things in decorating; a candle burning, a cozy blanket, a pillow, some mugs set out for hot chocolate, a little spot that invites, “Come and sit!” But the main thing for me about fall décor is to make it cozy and inviting. Spring and summer need to say, “Be refreshed! Be energized!” And fall and winter need to speak, “Rest. Warmth. Cozy.”
Autumn decorating to me is pretty simple – adding lots of neutrals and whites, plush throw blankets in the living room to snuggle up while we read books or watch a movie, changing summer floral pillows out for a more wintery look. I don’t do a lot, or any actually, with orange and brown – I just keep it neutral and buy a few white pumpkins to add in for seasonal effect.
For the living room I added a cozy white blanket, fur pillow, and navy pillows to the sofa area. I kept the gold pillows that were already there, just added and changed out a few around them. Gold is my favorite neutral right now! I can hardly get enough of it, and it will be a sad day when it’s not as fashionable anymore. I’ll need to find a new crush.
[Yes, that is a tufted sofa, and yes it came from Craigslist! My forever BFF.]
With four kids in the house, it’s not going to be perfect. And that’s okay. I don’t want perfect – I want a home that my family feels like is a place of rest and of safety, and I want it to be beautiful. That’s my criteria. :)
Another favorite thing for me to add for the cozy factor are furs and sheepskins. On the back of a sofa, on a piano bench, across a bench at the kitchen table… Because my house has mostly neutrals, it needs to have a lot of texture to make it look cozy, and furs and sheepskins do that well!
And just a bit of cozy in the kids’ bedrooms as well.
Girls’ room ~ fur pillow, flannel sheets for those cold nights.
Buffalo plaid pillow, cozy bedding.
And of course there are some amazing inspirations online. I perused Arhaus on Pinterest because they are just so beautiful, and found these images that I just love.
Tufted sofa in navy (my new color love).
Soft pillows. Everyone can always add more pillows. To comfortable sectionals, accent chairs, you name it.
Adding some woody touches, one in brown, and the other in gold.
And I was super honored to find my Thanksgiving table idea pinned on their site!
It’s a busy week for us, and I’m excited about seeing far-away family and spending time with those I love so much! Enjoy your holiday, friends!
I know, it’s already November, and here I am talking about gardening. But for real, it’s 70 degrees outside and so I’m just going to pop this little flower post in here before it turns into winter, probably, tomorrow.
So! Our back yard. Hudson holds his thumb and pointer finger an inch apart, put them up to his eye and squints, then says, “Our back yard is DIS LITTLE.” It’s kind of true. About the size of a postage stamp. The kids play kick ball in the back yard and have to make sure they don’t kick each other every time they kick the ball. Sort of kidding, but not really.
A small outdoor space is one of the biggest challenges for us… and we have four kids. SO! You can only imagine the energy levels around here. I can’t even say, “Go run around the house five times!!!” like I would in Georgia, because our house is attached to the house next door. If they run around the backyard five times it would take 30 seconds and they’d get super duper dizzy. hashtag first world problems
// watering my container gardening pots, to bring color and cozy //
Part of me feels silly even talking about small spaces, because in a broad sense, our house is bigger than 99% of the world’s houses. Even at 1300 square feet. We are so incredibly blessed it’s hard to even comprehend it. I mean, I have a house to live in, a cozy warm house. Many people of the world would at least want a shelter to go into at night. Let’s face it: even those of us in the Western World with “small houses” are incredibly blessed.
So in talking about small spaces, I want to first get to a very basic level, but an extremely fundamental thing, of gratitude. We will always always have someone we can compare ourselves too. Small house people compare themselves to big house people. Big house people compare themselves to mansion people. Teeny shack people compare themselves to small house people. Bottom line: there will always be someone who has it nicer than you. Bottom line: get over it. Embrace where you ARE, not just where you wish you’d be. And if you’re in your dream house, then embrace that too! No need to feel guilty, just use it as an opportunity to give and to bless the people around you, even if it’s your family.
It’s a little scary, the things that I might even just think to myself, that comes out of the mouths of my kids.
“I can’t wait until we have a bigger house, then we can have company more often.”
“If we’d just have a bigger house, then we wouldn’t get bored so quickly.”
“Everyone else seems to have a bigger house than we do.”
It’s scary, I’m telling you. They’re like little mind readers. Or maybe, soul readers. And the same goes for when I’m focusing on contentment.
“I really like our house, because it doesn’t take much work to take care of it.”
“Our room is really cozy.”
“Having a little house is fun, because then you get to go out and do more stuff.” ;)
It’s like a mirror that speaks my inner thoughts. Yikes.
Anyway, where was I? Oh yes, backyard spaces. Gardening and flowers, that’s right.
For me, the benefit of having a small outdoor space is that we can mow, weedeat, and pull weeds all in the time-consuming space of 15 minutes. No joke.
The challenge is to be creative, to bring beauty into something that has to be fully functional. We ain’t got time for just pretties, y’all. But goodness, I do love my pretties.
My husband is also an avid gardener. Avid, meaning, he loves it. Even if it’s just 15 square feet that he’s got. Bless. So he planted tomatoes, lettuce, peppers, watermelon, as well as basil, cilantro, and another herb. I think. [Apparently I never used it because I can’t remember what it was. Oops. hashtag next year goals ] The tomatoes and peppers kept us supplied all summer and we’re still eating them!
// gumdrop tomatoes – perfect for kid snacks //
But when kids have a part of something, it helps them own it and take pride in their hard work, rather than just see something that we do and they benefit from.
This year Zoe and Olivia each planted a little pack of zinnias in front of the vegetable garden, and it was such fun to watch them grow! We were envisioning a cute little row, maybe 12 inches high, full of sweet little flowers. What we didn’t know is that they would grow up to 5 feet tall, covering the path in front of it, hiding all the lettuce, tomatoes, peppers, and any other veggie growing behind it. Oops. But it brought such beauty to our little back yard, and we had fresh-cut zinnias all summer long! I counted at least 15 different shades of colors in that little space, it was amazing! And I didn’t know that zinnias could be so diverse, and so amazingly beautiful! They quickly became a favorite, and the girls loved cutting fresh bouquets and taking them to friends throughout the summer.
An extra sweet thing about the zinnias too… After we planted them, and before they were fully grown, Ben’s youngest sister passed away at 18 years of age. In the midst of the sadness and loss with that, we remembered that Bekah’s favorite flowers were zinnias. And so as we loved our fresh flowers this summer, we also thought of Bekah and were constantly reminded of her beautiful life. That was just an extra-special touch from God.
So if your space is small, if you don’t want to spent a lot of money, or if you just don’t have room for many things, then plant zinnias. :) Add a few tomato and pepper plants, and you’ll have yourself a darling little garden.
We also did a deck renovation which I might show another time, because all of us love to be outdoors – especially in a region where you can practically live outside all summer the weather is so beautiful. It’s not big either, or perfect, but it is wonderful and provides us with a quiet outdoor retreat. Essential when you live in the city. :)
I’d love to hear from my other small-space friends too! What are some of your favorite plants, shrubs, and flowers for small spaces? Or an essential outdoor item for you?
Happy Monday, my friends!
I’m a firm believer that the books we read can shape and impact our lives tremendously! My mother instilled a deep love of books within her children, and I’m honored to now pass along that same love to my own little ones!
We are in the middle of more than four books at the moment, but I’ll highlight only four of them right now – two for the kids, and two that I’m reading.
This book came with our history & literature curriculum for the year, and it was a brand new one for me. It didn’t take longer than a chapter or two into it that I realized this is a classic tale, and one that rivals John Bunyan’s Pilgrim’s Progress and C.S. Lewis’ Chronicles of Narnia in quality and even in story line and setting. The stories captivate my 7 & 9 year olds, but is a little above what my 4 year old can grasp. He does still love to listen in though, and even if he doesn’t understand everything, it’s still good soul and brain development for him.
This was one out of a set of three that my mom read to us kids years ago, and I remember just loving them! So l purchased the set for us, and we are reading them together as a family. The books are written by someone who grew up in the jungle as a missionary kid, so they are full of adventure and meaning. And, oh my WORD. His writing style just kills me! I don’t know if anyone else will find his stories as humorous as I do, but the way he writes will literally have me doubling over in laughter, tears just rolling down my cheeks! That is a very very rare book that will do that. Needless to say, it’s quickly become a family favorite. :)
Tricia is someone I started following years ago when we both blogged, and then I started following her in Instagram too. She and her husband have four adorable little children, and I loved what I saw in her as she raised her family – hard working, lots of love, but she was very intentional about how having kids doesn’t mean having a messy, cluttered house! In fact, her decision to get rid of a lot of toys and simplify even made some big-name websites, because her ideas are so unique and they work!! So when I knew she was writing a book, of course I wanted to get it. :) It’s easy to read, and SUPER practical, which I love! I’ve told people it reminds me of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up (Marie Kondo), but for someone that has KIDS!! There are a lot of organizing and practical tips out there, but I’ve found they are largely written by someone who is a) single, or b), has 1-2 [grown] children. For someone in the thick of it with little ones, I loved how practical it was, and how she advocates that even homes with lots of children in them can be beautiful!
Sally Clarkson has been a long-time favorite author of mine. Her children are now grown, but this time Sally and her daughter Sarah co-write a delightful book together on family and the home. It’s divided into sections that go along with the months of the year, and I just want to sit and drink it in! I consider Mrs. Clarkson a sort of mentor to me as I raise my family, and nourish the souls of my children.
This weather, with the air turning just a bit cooler, makes me want to curl up with a book and a hot cup of tea. :) These days, with a lot of little ones around, I need to be very intentional about making that happen, but it’s rewarding and refreshing when I do!
Happy Wednesday, you all!
P.S. Thank you for your kind words in welcoming me back! What a gift to be surrounded by such kindness and warmth! <3
I blow the dust off this blog, look over a few things, and smile. This has been a place of meeting such great women, of new friendships birthed, of a few stories and a bit of life from my family shared, and it’s special. It’s been a good break, this year and a half of hardly posting at all, of months passing without me even logging in. Sometimes stepping away is the best thing we can do.
It’s been a season of incredible change for us the past 18 months. Selling our much-loved cottage, moving 800 miles, renovating a little city house, having our 4th child… I wasn’t sure if blogging was still something for me. Maybe it was over, just for the season of our life at the Cottage, and since the Cottage is gone, blogging is gone too?
But I’ve still been writing. Journaling, writing down thoughts for myself, even if no one else sees them. Writing is just part of me, whether or not it’s public. I expect it’s like that for a lot of people.
And lately I’ve been wanting to resurrect this blog again. Not in the same way that I blogged before, with an old cottage, our “dream home,” of DIY’s and projects, but rather coming from a completely different perspective. We’re in a temporary house right now, small. It’s cozy, but challenging for the size of our family. It’s not our forever house, but we’ve been here a year, and may be here a while yet.
The blog-world is filled with stunning homes, people’s dream homes. Their forever homes, where they have everything exactly as they want it. And I’m happy for them! Don’t we all wish for that? :)
What’s been on my heart to write about is different though… What if we aren’t in our dream home? What if we struggle to make the space work? What if a room gets rearranged 5 times and I cry tears of frustration because I just can’t make it work?! What if there are 12 steps from your front door to your back door, and your master bedroom is on the 3rd story and your laundry is in the basement? hashtag legs of steel
All of this has been me. Sometimes still is me. But I am determined to find a place of contentment, of not just enduring, but of thriving, right here and right now. I’m guessing there are probably a lot of other women in the same place, who have amazing strength and have chosen joy and have thrived in places that others have overlooked. Women who make a tiny space a sanctuary, where sunbeams dance even in the smallest of homes, and hearts sing and are glad because of the peace that is found in the heart of the Homemaker. And there are others who have a hard time, who wrestle and struggle, and think happiness won’t come for them until they are in the place of their dreams. Or at least, a place that has a yard bigger than a postage stamp, or more than one bathroom for a family of 6! Or maybe you’re perfectly contented, and wonder what all the fuss is about. ;)
Wherever we find ourselves, I’m wanting this to be a place of encouragement, of linking arms and encouraging us to BE the women that truly make our homes what they are.
What I’ll be doing the next few weeks, perhaps months, is what I’m calling “The Little House Series.” Things I’m learning about small spaces, both in soul and practically, and sharing real parts of my own journey of choosing joy and contentment. Looking forward to chatting soon.